Its that time of year, people have started putting their Christmas decorations up and I excitedly point them out to William hoping to see some kind of flash of recognition or magic in his eyes but there is nothing, but that doesn’t mean it will always be this way and I cling to that. This is going to be Williams fifth Christmas which means as per our tradition it will be his fifth Christmas Mickey toy and this year, I will start the tradition for Little Miss.
I was always a self-confessed scrooge; Christmas was never like it was portrayed in the movies and it always fell short of my expectations. There was no snow on the ground, we didn’t have a house full of people, all happy and playing board games. Don’t get me wrong, as a child our Christmases were magical… ‘Santa’ would fill little stockings outside our bedroom doors, and I would excitedly run into H’s bedroom. ‘he’s been!’ I would scream and the excitement would begin.
We weren’t allowed downstairs until my mom had been to pick up big nanna so we would sit on the top step waiting to hear the car pull into the driveway.
‘Santa’ always delivered except if it was something noisy… like the Christmas of 92 when H was severely disappointed at not getting a Teenage Ninja Mutant Turtles whistle. Apparently, it was sold out, but mom and dad didn’t want something so noisy in the house so got her a ball instead haha🏀
I’m a weirdo and love giving presents to people, I love thinking about what I feel people will appreciate and putting thought and love into gifts and then seeing their faces when they open them. On the flip side and this definitely makes me a hypocrite, I am a terrible person to buy for, I hate receiving gifts and being expected to open them in front of people, purely because I cannot hide my reactions… my face always gives me away. My girlfriends and I do a Secret Santa every year and I flat out refuse to open mine, mainly because on Christmas day, I don’t really have a lot to open but also so that I can do it in private. Birthdays are the same too. I am super grateful to anyone that thinks enough of me and is generous enough to buy a gift, but I like the privacy of opening them alone.
William’s Christmases aren’t like the movies, or the ones I had as a kid, but we adapt to suit the kind of Christmas he needs, and we try to make it as special for him as he can handle. Separation can be hard as it usually involves two Christmases and two birthdays, but William can only just cope with one. Thankfully me and his dad are on the same page and can make plans which suit William without it turning into an all-out war and I’m grateful for that.
Last year despite the covid restrictions, William had what I can only describe as our first peaceful Christmas; everything was done at his pace… there was no rushing and no expectations. Peace and joy for all.
My tree is not yet up as I don’t know how William will handle it due to his pica and his obsessive need to eat objects, for the last few years I’ve ran interference but it’s not getting any easier. Putting my tree up is magical to me; it’s the same tree we had as children, so it brings back many happy memories for me putting on all the old but very loved ornaments and seeing them incorporated with our own newer ones. I think my favourite is a little green one which is half open and contains the three wise men, I mean… I think they are the tree wise men, but they are so worn that they could be miniature figures of the Bee Gees. Staying alive on my Christmas tree 😂
My stand-alone ornaments have long been abandoned and are currently sat gathering dust in my spare bedroom/office, I think I may donate them to a charity shop as I imagine they will sell this time of year and I often like to take William’s old clothes and toys in for them to be sold for a good purpose and go to a good home. I used to try and sell things on Facebook but it’s not worth it as everyone wants something for nothing whether they can afford it or not.
I guess what I really want to say to you all, is enjoy the up coming festive season in any which way you decide to celebrate it.
All my love 😘 M.x