Today I want to talk about help and the places in which you expect it to come from but more importantly the places you would never expect. Today I want to talk about Essity and the amazing and generous help they have offered us but first I was to give you all a little background on what has led to today. This is by no means a sponsored post as Essity has kept all communication private but I feel they need to be mentioned as people find it so easy to brand big companies as heartless and greedy but today Essity has really helped put us out of the gap we found ourselves in in regards to the nappy service.
We have spoken previously about when it comes to help from the NHS, the council and other sources we often find ourselves in a gap; a void that you fall into when you miss the criteria that warrants help. It can be so frustrating that in our case Williams age prevents him from getting the help he needs or the help we need to keep him clean, healthy, and safe.
We have cried at receptionists, doctors, health visitors and many other health professionals because we have been denied access to the services we so desperately need.
There is a quote that occasionally does the rounds on the support group that we are part of, and it always really resonates with me.
A SPECIAL NEEDS PARENT FALLS DOWN A HOLE
Family/friend:“What hole?” Boss:“Oh that’s a shame. You can take the day off” Doctor:“Can you keep a diary of your experience in the hole?” CAMHS:“We will assess the size of the hole however it may take over 2 and a half years” Local Authority:“Sorry we don’t have enough money for a ladder” Charity:“Here is a form to fill in. This will get you on a waiting list for a ladder” Another special needs parent:“I’m here! I’m coming down there with you, I’ve been down here before and we can share my ladder”
We have had so much support from parents who have been in similar situations to our that it truly is inspirational. I would love to be able to help parents that start their own journeys which is one of the reasons we started our blog. Someone recently reached out to us on our twitter page to see if we could help their friend and I felt like we were part of something bigger. A group of parents who are bound together by being let down by a system that is set up to fail us. To make us feel like we can not help our children ourselves and need the extra support, its dangled in front of us like a carrot only to be pulled that little further away each time.
I just want to give you a little background information on Essity as I had to do a little research before writing this because I had never heard of them before. Essity is a leading global health company that originates in Sweden that develops, produces, and sells personal care items such as baby care, feminine care, incontinence products and medical solutions, plus so much more.
Essity´s vision is according to their website that they are dedicated to improving well-being through leading hygiene and health solutions.
They produce household names like Tena, Libero, Cushelle, Plenty, Bodyform, Cultimed and so many more across the globe As I have admitted I had never heard of Essity but I had heard of their brands, brands most families have in their cupboards including ourselves.
On the homepage on their website there is a quote ‘You want to make a difference every day. So do we.’ and usually when I see that kind of thing on a corporate website I would roll my eyes but they really mean it.
Today they have made the extraordinary offer to provide us with some suitable nappies for William until he is eligible for the nappy service from the NHS. This huge company that doesn’t know us from Adam has seen that we are in hole and thrown down that ladder that usually only other special needs parents carry around with them. This massive Swedish company has reached out to a little family from Hull and saved us. I know that may seem extreme as it is just nappies to most people but to us it a necessity and one that we may have been unable to source once William grows out of the standard sizes which will happen any day now and long before he turns four in 6 months.
There is really nothing we can do to repay such an amazing gesture other than to say thank you from all of us. Not just me, David and William but from our full family, from the staff at his nursery, our health visitor and every other professional to whom I have cried to about the unjust 4 year old rule.