Posted in Open Letters

A letter to my son

William,

1578 days, that is how long I have loved you, and that isn’t including the time I grew you inside of me, but I assure you; I loved you just as much then as I do now.
I have spent a total of 8 nights away from you, that’s only 0.5% of your life but from Saturday and until you start school, we will spend 28.5% of the week apart.

I would never have said a year ago, that I would be awake all night trying to comprehend these figures and telling myself that its going to be ok, that you will ok without me, that I will be ok without you.

I’ve spent almost 10 months thinking about how badly I need some time, ‘a break’ so to speak but I just wanted your dad to do his share because for the first four months through no fault of my own, you hated me. I could feel it and believe me, I didn’t like myself very much either at that point, but we got through it. The change in your routine blew everything apart, you struggled to eat, you lashed out and broke things, you cried, and I was beginning to think you didn’t know what sleep was but after 122 days; you slept. You slept in my arms after hitting me and yourself, but you slept, and it was a breakthrough or maybe a breakdown but you slowly got on board with your new routine and life got easier for both of us.

And here we are now, we have a good routine in place which is about to change once again and I don’t think either of us are ready for it but it has to happen.
I never wanted you to have two ‘part-time’ parents, two houses or any of the other things that comes with separation. I wanted stability for you, I know how much you need that but somethings are beyond our control, but I tried and I want you to know that, I tried… for you.

What if you need me and I’m not there? What if you seek me for comfort in a strange new environment and I’m not there? I cant always be there but I wish I could and I needed you to know this. You maybe don’t understand this now but when you are older and can maybe read this you will.

You are without a doubt, the best thing that’s ever happened to me, my greatest achievement and the love of my life. I wouldn’t be the person I am today had I not had you and I am forever grateful for you and everything you are.

I love you in the morning and in the afternoon, I love you in the evening and underneath the moon 🌙

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