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Back to the pound… part 2ūüź∂

MYKA STAUFFER! The more I read about this woman the angrier I get. How could she give up a child like he was a stray dog?!

If you haven’t read our original post on Myka Stauffer here it is

Back to the pound¬†ūüź∂

I have always judged people who get a puppy or dog and decide to take it back to the pound. I am completely aware there are 100% valid reasons in some cases but it always devastates me. You promised that little furry guy a new home, a good life and to love them forever… So […]

She implied to the word that she had ‘re-homed’ Huxley to a new mommy but turns out that apparently Huxley is in the US foster care system! And let’s face it even here in the UK we haven’t heard great things about that system. This means his current situation and new mommy may not even be permanent. Another traumatic upheaval for a little boy who deserves so much more. There is even rumour spreading round the internet that the re-homing was less official especially since the state of Ohio have announced his in not in their custody.
When a parent (and I use this term loosely) decides they can no longer look after their adoptive child they go through an official vetted process called adoption dissolution. As it was Myka who used the term re-homed it may be that the process was not done officially and that they used the wildly criticised and unsafe underground method which is called… you guessed it… Re-Homing!!!

I have re-watched the video announcement, because you know, I felt my blood pressure wasn’t high enough and I just wanted to torture myself. She states in the video that the doctors told her he needed more, implying that they told her he needed re-homing.

She then discusses this “secret” about Huxley and how they can’t discuss in detail for his privacy and in fear of messing up his future? Well I’m sorry but they’ve shared every aspect of that child’s life including the fact he has bitten and pinched his siblings. By saying this repeatedly in the video it is implying that it is Huxley’s fault that she gave up on him. Including a video of him having a meltdown.

In a comment on one of her videos she also states Huxley wanted to be re-homed and constantly chose his new family instead of the Stauffer’s. He also apparently signed and showed lots of emotion to show he wanted to be with them. Let’s also bare in mind that Huxley is non verbal and only has limited use of signs.
There is no way in fucking hell he would be able to knowingly agree to or want this let alone tell them he wants this.

Obviously this was everyone’s fault but theirs! It feels a little bit like the blame game. There full video about re-homing Huxley wasn’t even about Huxley but instead all about Myka just like all her other posts about their kids.

This post has resurfaced and people are slating her for it and I despise myself for this but at the time of writing this she was asking for guidance and it’s not fair for people to use that against her.
William, as you guys will be aware is really food orientated to a degree in which it is obsessive. He loves food and doesn’t understand the difference between his food and anyone else’s. I noticed in one of Myka’s videos that she was using treats to help Huxley learn signs; this is a method our key worked advised us to use to help William make eye contact. Unfortunately as soon as William sees the food he goes into meltdown even if he doesn’t want to eat it.

There are numerous other theories out there as to why Huxley was re-homed however based on some footage which has surface I’m beginning to think he should have been removed from their care before they gave him up. There is footage of Huxley showing his hands taped so he is unable to suck his thumb. I wonder if they did this to their biological children.

Babies have natural rooting and¬†sucking¬†reflexes, which can cause them to put¬†their thumbs¬†or fingers into¬†their¬†mouths ‚ÄĒ sometimes even before birth. Because¬†thumb sucking¬†makes babies feel secure, some babies might eventually develop a habit of¬†thumb sucking¬†when they’re in need of soothing or going to sleep. This can be used as coping mechanism.

Thumb sucking for autistic children can be stimming behaviour, stimming is short for self-stimulating behaviours. It is also known as ‚Äústereotypical repetitive‚ÄĚ behaviours.
Therapists class stimming as a protective response to being overly sensitive to environmental stress. For example, a child starts to flap his hands when he is in a noisy shopping centre.  Stimming is less reported when a child is engaged in activities that they like. In this case, stimming is recognised as an activity to occupy them while they are bored. Stimming is also viewed as a form of cause and effect play.
One of William’s stimming behaviours includes sucking on clothes tags, we purchased something amazing for William so that his hands could be free for him to explore the world around him. Its called a Chew Buddy. Link below for you guys to check them out.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chewbuddy-CBA81RAB-Pack-of-2/dp/B00KLDO5PW/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=chew+buddy&qid=1591114956&sr=8-1

TheKillerDoll on YouTube discusses how it is blatantly obvious how they used Huxley to boost their channels and how they treat him differently to their biological children. Check out her video here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVcdwG17Rhc

The Stauffer family don’t seem to be leaving the headlines any time soon, especially as more and more skeletons are falling out of their closest, the YouTube community are turning against them, their sponsors have cut ties with them, their subscribers are dwindling and now at 706k, she has been caught out buying Instagram followers, I’m a YouTube novice so I wonder if she has bought viewers too?