How the hell are you three already? It feels like yesterday I held you in my arms for the first time (and then proceeded to throw up everywhere 🤮)
Three years down the line and we still sneak into your room to check you are breathing, although usually we can hear you snoring from the landing now😴
That’s 1095 days (1096 since this year was a leap year) of you. Every day filled with the joy we feel at being parents to such a loving little boy. Every one of those days teaches us something new about you and the world you creating for yourself.
You have made us become stronger parents and people than we ever thought we could be. We have learnt to fight for what is needed for you or even us as a family.
Its been a weird year. Its been a year of acceptance and education for us as parents; this time last year we were both in denial about Williams issues and we struggled to even speak to each other about it. Phrases like ‘He’s just lazy’, ‘He can hear you but he’s just ignorant’ or explaining away his missed milestones ‘Well he is very top heavy with his little bobble head’ (still true but not an excuse just a trait from the Hobman gene pool 🤣)
This time last year we were preparing for the 2 year check and the questionnaire had not yet arrived… but when it did we had a moment of clarity that all parents should have and agreed to be brutally honest about what he can and cant do. We filled it in with pencil and rubbed out so many times. We both took the time off work to make sure we could go together and keep each other honest. It was hard. Those of you that have reading this since we started it will have travelled with us on that journey and felt what we felt. Cried when we cried and gotten angry when we have.
We have had meetings about meetings, meetings about plans and a few meetings which actually resulted in action.
When we moved house in summer we decided to put Williams name down for the nursery that is attached to what we thought would be his school in the future… We are yet to receive a call to offer him a place in the nursery but I can categorically say we would turn it down. His current nursery have been amazing meeting his additional needs which is why we haven’t moved him and make the dreaded public transport trek back to our old stomping ground. They have been so supportive with us as parents and helped progress us through his journey more than we could have ever hoped. They source funding and provided one on one support with Val who is amazing with William and so knowledgeable about up to date processes for children with sensory issues, speech delays and more. They’ve arranged specialists to come in and assess William for any other issues he had been facing and kept us so up to date with his progress both developmentally and socially.
They arrange quarterly meetings to discuss next steps with us and all the professionals involved with William to ensure we are all signing from the same hymn sheet 🎶
If any one reading this wants any information on his nursery for their children please contact us via our ‘Lets Talk!’ page.
What a difference a few hours make… I often draft my posts and come back to them if I get too emotional or life gets in the way, I won’t take back anything nice I said about nursery as its all so true HOWEVER… today william came home with 2 bite marks. NOT 1 BUT 2 OF THEM! Apparently 2 separate instances today and there have been 2 others on different days! Thats 4 different bites over the last month. I understand that children with complex needs can lash out or simply not understand what they doing especially as William has bitten me on occasion however as William should have 1 on 1 support 100% of his time there you would imagine these could have been preventable or at least the second instance today! If it’s the same child (dont care which one) then safeguarding should be in place so that supervision is on hand at all times. If William has been bitten four times how many other children have been??? I have reached out to the manager to find out what is happening and what they are putting in place to prevent these incidents going forward so I will keep you updated on that.
We are in a little bit of an appointment limbo right now, for the first few months we had multiple appointments and now we only have one in the pipeline which is 2 months away. Don’t get me wrong it is an important one as its the PCP meeting (Parent Centred Planning meeting) to discuss his future education and where best would meet his needs. We will then put steps in place to obtain an EHCP (Education, Health and Care Plan) which will ensure he receives the support he needs when he transitions from nursery to primary school. I think we have both come to the conclusion that as things stand now that William will need to attend a specialised school who can cater to his specific needs however places in these kinds of schools are very limited as it is a massively underfunded sector. Money is often ploughed into hubs at mainstream schools which has provisions for children with additional needs however any child placed into one of these hubs is a child that thats needs to be in a specialised school and just watching the parents of children starting school this year talking about it on my support group was heart wrenching and filled me with a low burning anxiety that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere any time soon. We have received reports back from speech and language and IPass confirming verbatim what they had told us after their visits to nursery. They both contain what will happen next but no dates so we are just waiting for further info like with everything else. Just like waiting for his blood tests and genetics testing… just waiting for them to hit the mat in an afternoon 📫(our postman likes a lie in) It’s just the long wait now… sorry I mean the long wait just continues now. No confirmation as of yet that William has been accepted on to the ASD Panel list but again we are waiting for it.