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The ‘TAF’ Meeting

William was sent home from nursery with a letter inviting us to a ‘TAF Meeting’ on 5th August 2019. It was just slipped into his bag like it was nothing. What is a TAF meeting? We had no idea and no one explained it to us so obviously I turned to the internet.

The internet is a wonderful thing but also an evil thing and you shouldn’t believe everything you read from unknown sources but that didn’t stop me… phrases swam around on my laptop like. ‘child at risk’ and ‘social services involvement’
I should have just called the nursery or my health visitor and asked what the meeting would entail but my fear and anxiety stopped me. I would rather be ill informed with my head in the sand.

We are very lucky to have a great support network and my boss Debs who also happens to be my best friend (no special treatment. I promise) forced me to take the day off work to attend as initially I was going to let Dave handle it on his own which I know is really selfish of me but I wasn’t in the right mental place to hear bad news. The Hobmans, Debs and a small group of other people had slowly been dripping the idea to us that William needed extra support so that when we were finally ready to admit it to ourselves they were on hand with their knowledge which they had accumulated whilst we were busy brushing them off. We are incredibly grateful for this even though we may not have said it at the time. Without the likes of my amazing mum and friends we may not be where we are now. So please if you are starting your own journeys look at your family and friends and truly appreciate them for what they are. A support network who will sooth you when you cry, listen when you are angry and give you a life vest when you feel like you are drowning.

We went into the meeting completely unprepared and scared about what would be said and how these people would judge us. I took a notebook and made 3 notes that to this day I have no idea what I had written. Just indecipherable words.

It was after this day I made our first public post on facebook…

The post

My facebook is private and I only accept people I know well so I was shocked when I started receiving messages from people on my friends list about how they are going through the same, have concerns about their children or have been down this route and had a diagnosis etc.

I had felt so alone in what I was going through and had no idea there were so many others out there. I decided I would keep posting updates so people could follow our journey. It then stopped been because people were mean behind our back and became about reaching out to people like ourselves.

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