A Nasty Reaction
I feel like I need to put a little bit of context into the above photo; whilst visiting Williams Big Nanna (my Nanna) like we do every Sunday he had a little red spot on his hand and 2 on his face that seemed to have appeared out of nowhere. As the day went on a few more appeared but he was fine within himself. Dave took him to the pharmacy in the morning as he had a few on his feet too… ‘Hand, Foot and Mouth’ they said. They can’t be wrong can they? We kept him off nursery as we know how contagious it can be.
On the Wednesday whilst I was at work the rash had spread all over his little body and the boy was itching which doesn’t usually happen when children have Hand, Foot & Mouth. Dave called 111 for some advice and they sent paramedics to our house who decided to blue light him to Hull Royal Infirmary. Dave didn’t call to tell me…
I rang him during my lunch to find out how William was and he said he was waiting to get the boy checked over as his rash is was worse. ‘what times the appointment with the doctor?’ he wasn’t at the doctors, ‘are you at the walk in?’ No.
He told me where he was and that everything was fine and was sat in childrens a&e waiting to be checked out, he didn’t mention the ambulance. ‘Do I need to leave work?’ No he was fine and just getting checked over and then they will be home.
I updated Debs and the Hobmans… Me, My Mum and Sister have a group chat. Debs told me to go and she would take over my work and My Mum and Sister both immediately called me. ‘Everything’s fine. I’m staying at work. Dave just wants him checked out’
3pm I call whilst on my last break… ‘everything is fine’ he says.
‘Do you want me to come after work and meet you both in a&e?‘
‘well… err we have been moved to a ward. Just for observation though! he‘s fine’
Debs again pushes me to leave work… She knows me too well. She knows I don’t want to be there in case something is wrong… I don’t want to hear the bad news because if I don’t hear it then it isn’t true. I know it’s selfish of me but I could justify it because Dave said he’s fine even though I know he is just trying to protect me from spiraling.
William was in fact fine and they even made it back to our house before I did. Dave was armed with a letter of discharge stating it was Viral Urticaria (Hives)
They had injected him with a strong antihistamine. This was especially nasty as they cant inject in one swift go but they have to do it over 60 seconds, so poor Dave had to restrain the boy whilst this happened.
RELIEF! all was good in the world. William was fine… we couldn’t pinpoint what had caused the reaction but he had recently finished a course of antibiotics (you know the kind; the tasty banana stuff🍌) for a chest infection, before that he had suffered with a Vomiting and Diarrhea bug. Maybe it was a reaction to the medicine or even just an after effect of been so poorly. We even thought it could have been a reaction to some cleaning products that was on Big Nans sofa as she had recently had it professionally cleaned.
I messaged the family chat to update them. Great news! only Dave didn’t look like he had great news… and that’s when I saw it, I don’t know how I missed it. In bold lettering at the bottom of the discharge letter ‘Actions to be completed by GP: we would recommend that William be referred to the social communication difficulties team for investigations of possible Autistic Spectrum Disorder. We would be grateful if you could facilitate this’
The Paediatrician at the hospital had asked Dave about Williams behaviours and told him it was highly likely William had some form of Autism.
I cried, Dave cried and I’m pretty sure every member of our support network cried too.
When I told my Nanna she asked in hushed tones if I was telling people. ‘Of course we are. It’s nothing to be ashamed of’ she said she knows that but does she? Does anyone?
I asked my friend between sobs ‘How can I care for a child with special needs?’
‘You already are and have done for the last two and a half years. This doesn’t change who William is or you and Dave as his parents’